I am glad you are writing on these issues to bring understanding. I learned alot and got a better perspective from reading this. A spectrum makes sense.

As a woman (and in a masculine profession) I have experieinced being treated as less for sure but I never felt "defined" by other people's norms or expectations and I would truly resist anyone defining me as binary or non-binary because others see themselves as one or the other. I am just a person who happens to be a woman. I think that may be where some resistance comes in.

Why should who I am be defined by who you are? Which is exactly what you are saying. Thanks for being outspoken as the level of prejudice is palpable but discussing the issue as you have becomes a social construct for change in perspectives and therefore action and treatment.

When I was beginning college and had an issue with a professor who was openly prejudice against black people of which I took great offense, my dad asked me a poignant question those 40 years ago. Did I know the real difference between myself and a black woman. Nope we are the same I said. He said: "when you look in the mirror, you see a woman. When she looks in the mirror, she sees a black woman." In his own way he was showing me how society affects our own views of ourselves and how that is different.

I am glad transwomen can express themselves as who they are and hope we all warm to acceptance. The law will learn to protect them with strict scrutiny of laws even if not with the current supreme court. I appreciate that you see something different in yourself than I see in myself and see you appreciate that as well. We all need self acceptance and Individuality is like that. Viva la difference, ey. Or as Morgan Freeman's Hazeem says in Robinhood Prince of Thieves when the little girl asks him, Did God paint you? Alah loves variety.