Ran out of time to read all the comments. This is hard to get without personal experience. I too learn first hand how destructive this personalty disorder is. What you say is true and I appreciate you writing about the progression from love bombing to gas lighting.

I feel blessed that I found articles on the internet (some place with elephant in the name) that helped me see the truth so I would stop trying to fix a bad pairing. I knew I was out when the last gas lighting comment I got was: “I am going to manifest a heart attack because you deserve two dead husbands.”

I was divorced two weeks later. No one could hurt me that deep and really love me. Nearly five years wasted on this lessons learned that would have been better avoided.

The healing takes some time as you do not realize how your self image is being eroded. I used the course on miracles to apply every principal to my effed up “brother” who I had to love to not destroy myself with hate. We have to drag our enemy into heaven with us to get to heaven ourselves, according to this high level spiritual psychology. As Mrs Eddy once wrote: “Love your enemy or you will not lose them and if you love them, you will reform them.” Straight up right but the trick is- get the distance first. Get them out of your life!