Thank you for this explanation. When dealing with a border line client 20 years ago, I recognized it was the same pattern as my great grandma. I was her favorite person. Thirty years after her death, that favoritism still costs me in a relationship with my sister who has no clue how bad it is to be the roller coaster riding favorite. Thanks for explaining this. I did not recall seeing that in the DSM when getting educated for healing. Appreciate your insights. My grandma lost her mom when she was 18. Fear of abandonment always made sense but the roller coaster of devaluing me and my goals and the awful meanness while also being my greatest helper and supporter did not ever make sense until just now. Thanks.